2BABA: TOKE MAKINWAIS POT CALLING KETTLE BLACK

 2BABA: TOKE MAKINWAIS  POT CALLING KETTLE BLACK

  

📌 He who comes to equity must come with clean hands.

Nigerian radio personality and television host, Toke Makinwa has been in the forefront, castigating and thrēatening Nigerian singer, Innocent Ujah Idibia MON; known by his stage name 2Baba and formerly as 2Face Idibia In the last two days after news of his sēparation and planned divørce to Annie Macaulay popped up.

Like Toke, many Nigerians especially the womenfolk didn't bother to hear Innocent out on the reason for his decision but all they are after and shouting is that he should not try it or else he will have them to contend with. Who does that? Nobody force someone on another person because of mere sentiments using emotional blackmail. 

When Toke divorced her husband just after one year of marriage, nobody asked her to go back to him by force for God's sake. If you're to be taken seriously, then you have to practice what you preach. Assuming it was Annie that took that step, I'm sure that the story would have been different.

On 15 January 2014, Toke married Maje Ayida, whom she had been involved with for eight years prior to their wedding. In 2015, she separated from Ayida after finding out that he had gotten his ex-girlfriend pregnant.

So many hypocritës like her and others that didn't really know what transpired between the two of them were casting blames on Maje Ayida until recently when Toke granted an interview that shed more light on the break-up.

In A Recent interview, Toke Makinwa Opens Up About Her Past Marriage. Excerpt 👇 

"My ex and I are good friends now. Good-ish I mean. We're good, we're not enemies. And it took therapy to admit what I'm about to admit to you. I also don't know who he married.

That girl (younger Toke) and I are two different people. I mean, I was having identity issues in my 20s. I didn't know what I wanted from my career. And to put that much burden on someone to make you happy is the worst disservice you can do to yourself. I let myself first down by letting my happiness hang on one man, and I don't even know how he pulled through. Because I'm sure he was trying to navigate his own life, and there is this girl who is holding onto you, who is dating so serious. 

I don't know whether it's the movies that taught us that when we date, we think every relationship must lead to you walking down the aisle. I don't know where I got that sense of "oh my god, this is the one and he must be the one, and I must be faithful to him and we must have this relationship that if it doesn't lead to marriage, I don't think-" It was just nasty.

And it took me going through therapy to admit that we just were not fit for each other. Nobody deserves to be with someone who puts their entire happiness on them. Your happiness is your priority and your job, and I realized that in my 30s. With everything divorce or relationship, it takes two.

Nobody goes through a divorce by themselves. Like you know, I would admit "I never cooked him a meal in the time that we were married because I didn't think he deserved it."

Because I had a lot of resentment, so I didn't see myself standing in the kitchen making you a meal cuz I'm just thinking "after everything you put me through, you not want to eat." I shouldn't have married him because nobody, even a prisoner on death row, deserves some form of mercy.

Nobody deserves to be with somebody that is reminding them of what they did in 19-something-something. I salute him for staying with that girl. It does not also absolve him of his faults. I'm just saying nobody deserves to hold the keys to your happiness, and I think you know getting the bag did that for me.

Hmmmmn 🤔 

"She never cooked him a meal in the time that they were married because she didn't think he deserved it." Does that really make any sense?

                                     

And when the guy did the unthinkable by going back to his ex-girlfriend, you were shouting here and there with your online families.

With all she said in that interview just last year, she's now an advocate against divorce castigating 2baba for posting it on social media as if she didn't post her own divorce on social media and even inside newspapers.

Toke said "nobody deserves to hold the keys to your happiness". But now, she's trying to hold the key to someone else's happiness. 😂 

He who comes to equity must come with clean hands. Her case is a clear case of "Pot Calling Kettle Black". She should just "Shùt Up! 🤐

I am not supporting divørce here, but all I'm saying is that the man should be given fair hearing, we should hear from him why he took the decision first before castigating him.

©️ Olugbenga Lawal